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There's an expression that horse trainers use whenever a client's ride becomes difficult - "Keep riding through it." I've heard it at least a hundred times while riding my horse. It's a function of good horsemanship. If you give up or get off in the midst of difficulties, you might win the battle that day but lose the war in the long run. Learning to be really good at something takes persistence and time. Such it is with life; so it is with writing.

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Why Am I So Selfish?

2/24/2015

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In a recent interview, Debbie McClure asked me what my weaknesses are. One of them is that I'm selfish with my time. The good part of that is that being selfish with my time means that I get more done as a writer.Unfortunately, it doesn't help me to be a better person.

Since doing that interview, I've done a lot of soul searching about what makes me basically selfish. Part of it is perceiving that I have much to accomplish and wanting to get it done. But, it goes much deeper. In my heart of hearts, I know that I'm only selfish when it comes to time with other people. I will give a horse or dog any amount of time, because I love being with them and what they represent. To me, they are perfect specimens of pure love. With people, not so much. I want to give my time to people with good hearts. To say that I've been disappointed in various people throughout my life is an understatement. I've been bitten a lot by people with bad hearts.

What do I mean by that? Simply put, people with bad hearts are dishonest, not only with others but with themselves. They are manipulative and are only about themselves.  They only want to make a difference in their own lives and not those of others. And, they aren't always easily detected. People with good hearts are the exact opposite, and, they're out there but not easily found. It takes a lot of time and energy to weed through the good and bad hearts.

But with animals, it is fairly simple. You always know where you stand with them. There's no deception. If they don't like you, they'll let you know immediately. They won't smile and pretend to be your friend only to stab you when your back is turned. If they do like you, no words will speak louder than the actions they convey to let you know how they feel.

So, am I wary of people and their motives? Probably too much. But, I've spent a lot of time with my animals and have learned, like they, to quickly analyze the hearts of people I meet. That's why I'm always looking for good hearts and appear to be selfish with my time.

Let me know if you have a good heart.
Til next time,
Carol
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Debbie McClure
2/27/2015 07:56:15 am

I'm glad my question inspired you to think about something so deep, Carol. That's my ultimate goal.

I know what you mean about trusting others, but I guess, for the most part, I go with my gut regarding both people and animals. I also don't stress about others and their motivations too much, since life us about learning. We learn as much, or more, from our negative lessons as we do from our positive ones. I've always thought I have a good heart, but I'm definitely not perfect. I'm good with that. Stay well, my friend. :-)

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Carol McKibben link
3/2/2015 01:02:12 am

Thanks, Debbie! You are quite a thought-provoker! And, I agree with everything that you've said here. You definitely have a good heart, and I look forward to our long friendship! I so appreciate your support. Thanks again!

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