In a recent interview, Debbie McClure asked me what my weaknesses are. One of them is that I'm selfish with my time. The good part of that is that being selfish with my time means that I get more done as a writer.Unfortunately, it doesn't help me to be a better person.
Since doing that interview, I've done a lot of soul searching about what makes me basically selfish. Part of it is perceiving that I have much to accomplish and wanting to get it done. But, it goes much deeper. In my heart of hearts, I know that I'm only selfish when it comes to time with other people. I will give a horse or dog any amount of time, because I love being with them and what they represent. To me, they are perfect specimens of pure love. With people, not so much. I want to give my time to people with good hearts. To say that I've been disappointed in various people throughout my life is an understatement. I've been bitten a lot by people with bad hearts.
What do I mean by that? Simply put, people with bad hearts are dishonest, not only with others but with themselves. They are manipulative and are only about themselves. They only want to make a difference in their own lives and not those of others. And, they aren't always easily detected. People with good hearts are the exact opposite, and, they're out there but not easily found. It takes a lot of time and energy to weed through the good and bad hearts.
But with animals, it is fairly simple. You always know where you stand with them. There's no deception. If they don't like you, they'll let you know immediately. They won't smile and pretend to be your friend only to stab you when your back is turned. If they do like you, no words will speak louder than the actions they convey to let you know how they feel.
So, am I wary of people and their motives? Probably too much. But, I've spent a lot of time with my animals and have learned, like they, to quickly analyze the hearts of people I meet. That's why I'm always looking for good hearts and appear to be selfish with my time.
Let me know if you have a good heart.
Til next time,
Carol
Since doing that interview, I've done a lot of soul searching about what makes me basically selfish. Part of it is perceiving that I have much to accomplish and wanting to get it done. But, it goes much deeper. In my heart of hearts, I know that I'm only selfish when it comes to time with other people. I will give a horse or dog any amount of time, because I love being with them and what they represent. To me, they are perfect specimens of pure love. With people, not so much. I want to give my time to people with good hearts. To say that I've been disappointed in various people throughout my life is an understatement. I've been bitten a lot by people with bad hearts.
What do I mean by that? Simply put, people with bad hearts are dishonest, not only with others but with themselves. They are manipulative and are only about themselves. They only want to make a difference in their own lives and not those of others. And, they aren't always easily detected. People with good hearts are the exact opposite, and, they're out there but not easily found. It takes a lot of time and energy to weed through the good and bad hearts.
But with animals, it is fairly simple. You always know where you stand with them. There's no deception. If they don't like you, they'll let you know immediately. They won't smile and pretend to be your friend only to stab you when your back is turned. If they do like you, no words will speak louder than the actions they convey to let you know how they feel.
So, am I wary of people and their motives? Probably too much. But, I've spent a lot of time with my animals and have learned, like they, to quickly analyze the hearts of people I meet. That's why I'm always looking for good hearts and appear to be selfish with my time.
Let me know if you have a good heart.
Til next time,
Carol
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