I call this self-victimization and have a 7-step method to resolve it. I example it in my memoir, Riding Through It. I'm very sure that this method works. Why? Because I was one of the world's worst self-victims, and this is what I did to cure myself of it:
1) Decide that you are a worthy human being. Those who live in the past are still hiding behind past events and think they aren’t worthy of better than they have.
2) Surround yourself with winners, not losers. Associate with those who make you feel positive about yourself, who help you believe that you “can if you think you can!”
3) Don’t let others rule your destiny. Take control of your life.
4) Label yourself as STRONG, not weak. Believe in that strength. Know that you can do anything you set your heart and mind to do.
5) Take responsibility for your past and current mistakes, and then leave them behind you. Don’t blame anyone else for your past…it’s all you, baby.
6) Stop living in a “poor little me” pity party. Get out of the doldrums and focus on what you want out of life.
7) Stop always choosing the “easy way out” of things. The easy road is rarely the right road. The bottom line? It’s all about attitude. You may not change the situation, but you can change your attitude about any and everything.
*Question asked in a recent interview with You Read It Here First.