It's as simple as that. Do you put conditions on others that you love? What might those conditions be? How about:
Your being unemployed is a problem.
You are a pain when you are sick. Why do you have to be sick?
You have gotten overweight. You didn't used to be.
You don't make as much money as I thought you would.
The friend in the photo above would never think those things.
Do you get the idea? Share with me if you think you might be placing conditions on those you love, and let's have a conversation about it.
I look forward to hearing from you.