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There's an expression that horse trainers use whenever a client's ride becomes difficult - "Keep riding through it." I've heard it at least a hundred times while riding my horse. It's a function of good horsemanship. If you give up or get off in the midst of difficulties, you might win the battle that day but lose the war in the long run. Learning to be really good at something takes persistence and time. Such it is with life; so it is with writing.

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The 11 Traits of a Respectful Person

3/6/2013

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My friend and client, John Daly, recently wrote a blog about respect. In it, he listed the “11 Traits of a Respectful Person.” While reading them, I thought that if we are truly to love each other unconditionally, this would be a great place to start. Showing others that we respect them, illustrates that we love them.

Here are John’s 11 Traits of a Respectful Person.

Trait #1: They’re honest. They don’t lie. People can depend upon them. Think of the heroes we admire in books, movies and real life. Don’t they act with honesty and integrity? Aren’t they generous with others? Doesn’t everyone look up to them?

Trait #2: They don’t lose their tempers, scream, yell or strike out against others when things don’t go their way. In other words, they rarely lose control. When negative things happen to them, they remain positive. They treat people as they would like to be treated.

Trait #3: They are tenacious. They don’t give up easily. They become resourceful when the going gets rough. They totally get that they can’t change other people or the circumstances, but they can change their attitudes about situations.

Trait #4: They admit when they’re wrong. Instead of sticking to their guns (no matter what) just to be “right,” they fess up to their mistakes, particularly when it lets another person “off the hook” or eases a situation.

Trait #5: They aren’t lazy; they strive. They are hard workers who always want to “get it right.”

Trait #6: They have their priorities straight. They put what is truly important, what will really help others or a situation, above their own needs.

Trait #7: They have an inner sense of right and wrong. They innately know the right thing to do, and they understand clearly when an injustice is being served.

Trait #8: They tend to be role models for other people. Others admire and look up to them.

Trait #9: They are givers. They know the “secret” that the more you give, the more you receive when you are genuine about your gifts. We’re talking not so much about money but time and expertise. They operate on Zig Ziglar’s quote, “You will get all you want in life if you help enough people get what they want.”

Trait #10: They have high self-esteem. They believe they deserve success and know they can do anything they go after. They know that a mistake is something that they do and not who they are. They keep a positive self-image because they know that self-esteem is a state of mind that they have chosen.

Trait #11: They are loyal, even when it’s tough to do so. They stand behind those with whom they have forged relationships and don’t betray them.

Think about it. If we embraced just some of these traits, wouldn’t the relationships in our lives be amazing?

To learn more about John Daly and the amazing work he is doing with The Key Class to help the world become a better place, visit: http://www.thekeyclass.com.

Until next time,

Carol


22 Comments
Nguyen Van Dinh
1/3/2019 01:25:14 pm

The 11 Traits of a Respectful Person or The 11 Traits of a RESPECTABLE Person

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Carol F. McKibben link
1/4/2019 05:15:04 pm

Respectable - relatively or fairly good; considerable: a respectable salary. Respectful - .feeling or showing deference and respect. Respectful is correct for this usage.

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Ace65
3/11/2020 11:47:57 am

good blog

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Carol McKibben link
3/12/2020 01:56:16 pm

Thank you!

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Reese
4/20/2020 03:17:22 am

Very good.

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Carol McKIbben link
4/20/2020 05:51:49 am

Thank you very much, Reese.

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Hedda
5/5/2020 09:37:03 pm

Very nice blog. Learned alot from it! :)

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Carol McKibben link
5/6/2020 06:06:03 am

Hedda, I'm so glad it was helpful. Thank you!

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Trish
5/26/2020 07:10:47 am

Agree with everything except #6. Putting what will help others in front of what you need is co-dependent and a set up for unhealthy relationships, burnout, failure and demonstrates a lack of boundaries. (Not respectable). I would totally support Mr. Daly's list if this said "above their own WANTS". There is a difference.

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Carol McKibben link
5/26/2020 11:33:50 am

Trish, thank you for your input.

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252336+
5/30/2020 03:53:08 pm

This is information that someone who thinks that they are respectful will embrace. Very Generic -- going through the motions without heartfelt intent is not true respect.

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Carol McKibben link
6/5/2020 11:39:06 am

Interesting way to look at it. I wholeheartedly disagree, but if we all thought the same way it would be a boring world.

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Aidan
6/5/2020 11:33:02 am

Thank you for putting this thing up

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Carol McKibben link
6/5/2020 11:39:55 am

You are very welcome.

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Ellena F link
12/14/2020 11:16:10 pm

Very nice blog you have here

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Carol McKibben link
12/15/2020 06:32:31 am

Thank you very much, Ellena!

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Hakim Rattely
3/8/2021 10:34:29 pm

I agree putting other people needs before your own is co dependency, But i think what he meant was being of service during ones leisure time. Also having a set time of being helpful to your community is very honarable.

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Carol McKibben link
3/9/2021 06:19:26 am

I appreciate your thoughts and thank you!

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Susan link
2/28/2022 03:34:58 am

/Concerning #6, yes it think it is very noble to put the needs of others before your own, but you have to be careful about what kind of people you are supporting. You could become a enabler.

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Carol McKibben link
2/28/2022 06:34:12 am

An excellent point. Thank you for sharing it.

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Kaydence Joy MacArthur link
8/19/2022 07:01:33 am

Thank you so much for putting up this blog!!!! I have been trying to be the most respectful person I can. A lot of these I can work on but I love that you put John's beliefs in this and shared it with others! It (to me) is very inspiring and I will keep all of this information with me as I go on my journey of becoming a more respectful person. I am so happy that you would put his work in this blog and i hope you believe these too! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! <3

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Carol McKibben link
8/19/2022 07:46:57 am

Joy, thank you so much for your kind comments! John Daly is a role model for all of us to follow!

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