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There's an expression that horse trainers use whenever a client's ride becomes difficult - "Keep riding through it." I've heard it at least a hundred times while riding my horse. It's a function of good horsemanship. If you give up or get off in the midst of difficulties, you might win the battle that day but lose the war in the long run. Learning to be really good at something takes persistence and time. Such it is with life; so it is with writing.

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Own Their Behavior

3/30/2016

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I don't know about you, but the rude behavior that surrounds us currently makes me tired. We have a saying in the south: "You make my tired ache." Well, that's how I feel about the current political environment, the nasty posts on social media and the general public behavior of so many people.

I don't think anyone who puts himself or herself above other people deserves my respect. And, I don't think the people who are publicly being rude, inconsiderate and demeaning to others realize what bad images they are creating.

John Daly, an etiquette expert, friend and associate of mine, told me that to get respect, you need to earn it. The same goes for love. If you want it, you need to be willing to give it.

Even the vampires, that's right the blood-craving kindred  in my Snow Blood Series, understand  compassion, respect, and love. 

Honestly, I think rude behavior generally goes back to low self-esteem and the lack of love for self. After all, if you can't respect and love yourself unconditionally, how can you feel that way about anyone else? This goes back to the premise I put forth in Luke's Tale.You  have to learn to love who you are before you can care about other people. Once you are at peace with yourself, you can be right with everyone else. Does that make sense?

Do you disagree? I would love to hear your thoughts on it, because I think we're getting to the point where we need to expect people to "own their behavior." When they are rude or disrespectful or unloving, we need to "call" them on it. I think often that many people don't realize the damage that they do to themselves or others when they live in an egocentric world that is void of self-love.

Comment below and share your thoughts with me. This is something that is weighing on me heavily, and I would love to have  your thoughts about it.

Til Next Time,
Carol



4 Comments
Stephanie
3/31/2016 10:51:13 pm

Love the "You make my tired ache"

I like what Dr. Linda said in Lucifer...I find those that have a need to be rude find themselves powerless, like their lives are out of control.

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Carol McKibben link
4/1/2016 10:41:28 am

Thanks, Stephanie! Yes, Dr. Linda is right! I also think reality television and social media have embolden many people because they think it is acceptable in those formats, so why not in real life.
Best,
Carol

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Jane
4/1/2016 01:40:00 pm

Carol, I fully agree with you. I work in retail,and the number of disrespectful, thoughtless, inconsiderate people that shop just in my store scares the pants off me, contemplating the future my grandkids and great-grandkids will live through. I was brought up to respect myself and others, and treat everyone like I would want to be treated - how hard is that? I treat my customers respectfully, and they usually reciprocate; my coworkers who are grumpy or downright rude get the same behaviour.

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Carol McKibben link
4/1/2016 01:45:59 pm

Jane, I so appreciate your comments. It's amazing to me that people can be so thoughtless of others. I, too, was brought up to respect everyone else, and I truly "don't get" the entitlement behavior that permeates our society today. Thanks so much for sharing!

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