As human beings, we all strive for security. We find it in the dependability of those around us. That means we can count on certain factors: people keep their commitments to us; they are trustworthy with things that are important to us; they are there for us in times of need; they are honest and faithful and take responsibility for their actions. This is just as important at work as it is on a personal level.
If you are a responsible person, you become essential to the lives of others. Being desired and wanted is a basic human. I think that these factors are something that I try to point out in all my books. If you take a look at the Snow Blood Series, you'll see a family of vampires who rely on each other. The love they have for each other is obvious through all their actions, most of all with Snow Blood, a vampire dog. An unlikely group to consider being dependable, but that's why it makes that quality in them so much more noticeable. Would you agree?
So, let's think about ourselves for just a nanosecond. Would you consider yourself dependable. Are you there for your friends and family when they need you? Are you considered a "go-to" person at work because you always get it done? Do you keep your friends' secrets when they ask you to do so? Do you think about the needs of others more than you think about your own? That one is tough, but important if you can do it whenever you can.
I've found over the years that a few friends and business associates have fallen by the wayside. When I think back on it, I realize it's because they weren't reliable or dependable. Some only were conditional friends who hung with me for what I could do for them. When my value to them subsided, they disappeared. Sad, but true. Recently I depended upon a business associate who had always held up her end of our dealings. Suddenly, she has fallen into oblivion, without a word of explanation. And, it has caused me distress. I am now hanging on something that I promised to deliver, and I'm scrambling to make up the difference.
It's important to consider how our actions will effect those around us. Sometimes, it breaks our hearts. So, always consider how your actions will affect those you love, like or with whom you have business dealings. Ask yourself, "Am I dependable?"
Til Next Time,